Hopefully you have now begun to take a deep look at your life; past, present and future. If my words did reach you then you might have begun to discover yourself, to question who you are, what you want and where you want to go. For now, let’s not worry about the how. How will reveal itself as new discoveries are made.
To begin with you must define what it is you really want. That must be foremost in your mind right now. You need to decide your priorities. That is the reason I suggested you question your WHY. As well as suggesting that you consider WHY NOT? Once you determine what your priorities are you should take action. As soon as you make a decision, it is time to act.
Quite likely though you still need more convincing. You might have some excuses or limiting beliefs preventing you from taking the next steps. In order to take action on your dreams you must believe you are capable. You need to believe you are strong enough so that you need no longer hesitate when considering action. If you want to move toward your dreams then it is imperative for you to believe that it is possible.
Is it possible for you to go from being scared and intimidated to being a strong and confident person?
Absolutely! It all begins with belief. Belief in who you are and what you do.
- You are a student, learning new things all of the time; at any age or at all stages of life you should still be a student (Never stop learning).
- You are a graduate with a degree or certificate; you have proven to be capable in your chosen field.
- You are a single young adult living and managing your everyday life. Your own apartment, cell phone, bills; oh it is tough sometimes, but you get through it all.
- You are married, with or without children you have mastered running a household as best anyone possibly can (Life happens).
- You are a professional who is responsible for weekly productivity reports; never mind that you are nervous as hell when you speak before the conference attendees.
No matter what life puts before you or what stage of life you are currently living. You have to believe that you are capable. Each of us has unique abilities and skills that we apply to our individual lives. Life happens to all of us and most of us struggle with day-to-day circumstances, but some of us struggle with our own capabilities and believing that we are possible. We tell ourselves things like: “I can’t do that!” Or: “I’ve never done that before!” Also: “That is not something I know how to do!” Or worse yet: “That’s impossible!”
Did you notice that all of the above quotes end with exclamation points? That is because we are convincing ourselves with definite negative statements. These statements are simply not true.
You must develop the mindset that anything is possible. You can do anything you want in life if you are just willing to tackle it head-on. Play chicken with life’s little moments, driving straight at them. If you must, then develop the attitude of; “Fake it until you make it.” Whatever it takes to convince you that you have what it takes.
If you look back on your life, is there really anything that stopped you? Did you ever fail to get back up? Oh, sometimes getting back up was a little slower and more difficult. Life will make a habit of trying to keep you down, but you have the strength of character to keep going on. Here is a quote that cannot help but motivate you:
“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place. And I don’t care how tough you are. It will beat you to your knees and keep you permanently there if you let it”
“You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life, but it ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done”
“Now if you know what you are worth, go out and get what you are worth, but you gotta be willing to take the hits and not pointing fingers, saying you ain’t where you want to be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that, and that ain’t you. You’re better than that”
Now Rocky knows about impossible. He overcomes the odds every time he is challenged. OK, he is a fictional character, but he was created to be the very epitome of beating the odds; taking on life and winning, no matter what it takes. The message here is never be afraid of what life brings you. There are going to be some harsh and nasty moments, but if you fear them, you will never really live life.
If you fear life so much, you could always hide yourself away and live a life of seclusion, but what kind of life would that be. You would never be disappointed by others because you would have no interactions. You would never meet anyone but you would never laugh or cry either. You would never be hurt by anyone, so you would never experience heartache because you will never have loved. What kind of life is that?
You can live in your little bubble and never be exposed to the despair or the joys of life. Or you can choose to live life and experience it for all it is worth. Anyone who has really lived can tell you that the joys far outweigh the sorrows, but you must have lived through the bad times to appreciate the good.
“It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all!” – Alfred Lord Tennyson
“…let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is…fear itself!” – Franklin D. Roosevelt
Life is about facing and conquering fears. Now I cannot expect everyone to just jump in with both feet disregarding their fears. What I can do is encourage you to, “…take the first step in faith…” More good will come from action than bad. Take action today.
Do you believe that all things are possible? Is your first thought that, “This is impossible?” Could you convince yourself that I’m possible?
**PRIDE IN PRACTICE**
- Take some time for reflection: Consider the good things you have accomplished in your life. Consider those bad things you have experienced. List them on a page divided down the middle, to compare the good vs. bad.
- Develop an affirmation that you might use to reinforce your abilities: “Impossible? I’m possible!”: “A Life lived is a life loved!” or perhaps create a mantra that is more suited to your own needs.
Your life is yours to live but if you are afraid to live it or believe that you are less than you are, then you are not living to your truest potential.